I’m not proud of the things that I do sometimes and I know I keep blaming myself for a lot of things. Been surfing the net for some stuffs and I chanced upon this site. Do take your time to read through. A quote from the article helps me ease up a lil…. For those who has doubts or uncertainties about certain things, I hope this link will enlighten you as how it has for me. 🙂

The Modern Religion [link]

“Admonish them”. In this step the husband can say a great variety of things to the wife. He can bring to her attention some relevant teachings from the Qur’an and Hadith. He can remind her of the adverse effects of a possible break-up of marriage on all concerned – she herself, the children, if any, and he himself. Such admonition however, will be effective only if the husband has a good character, at least in comparison with the wife. Otherwise, the wife can say to him, either in her heart or aloud, “look who is talking”.

The husband must practice what he preaches to his wife, for the Qur’an condemns preaching to others what we do not practice ourselves (2:44).

“Separate them in beds”. There is a lot that a husband can achieve by talking to the wife in the right way. But if he fails, he should try separating the wife in bed and take other steps that go with such an action, e.g. avoiding to talk to her. If there had ever been any love between the two, this separation while living together, may help that love to return or come to the forefront. The wife may, as a result, become more willing to change her ways and the husband too may begin to see some of the things in a different light. For this suggestion of separation to work it is clear that the husband should have sufficient control over his sexual urges. For, otherwise he may be driven to end the separation in bed before it had any positive effect on the wife.

Here’s a few more links found thatto me are interesting. Hope it won’t be offensive to some. Happy reading! =)
Gender Equity in Islam [link]
The Position of Women in Islam [link]
Article from MUIS [link]